You"re results oriented second guessing is a typical response and a product of the luck factor in poker( in this case bad luck ). This aspect of the game is what makes Poker such a tough nut to truly crack. The standard learning process for mere mortals is via trial and error, as in this case, you played the hand well but the outcome is not pleasant and does"nt confirm your play as correct. Conversely, the donkey in the BB is consumed in pompous confusion as to his greatness.
Its not all bad news though, if the game did"nt trick people into thinking they"re good, even awesome in some cases, players like "the donkey in the BB" would be lost to us and we would"nt want that.